Selena Gomez has always been the kind of star who speaks with heart, and this new look into her self-care habits makes that even clearer. In an exclusive chat with PEOPLE at the Rare Impact Fund Benefit on Oct. 29, the "Only Murders in the Building" actress opened up about how she lifts herself up when life feels heavy.
Gomez, 33, showed up with her husband, Benny Blanco, 37. The Rare Beauty founder has spent years sharing her mental health journey, and this interview adds another layer to how she stays grounded, honest, and human.
Selena walked into the conversation with the same warmth fans love and talked about what works for her in real time. She shared mental tricks, simple comforts, and the kind of support system that keeps her strong.
Grounding Yourself in the Present
When anxiety creeps in, the “It Ain’t Me” hitmaker uses a grounding exercise that sounds almost too simple, but holds real power. She brings herself back to the present by naming what is right in front of her. Selena tells herself, “Where am I? I’m sitting down in the office. Everybody that I love is out there. There’s food. I can get something to eat. I can take a nap here before I leave.”
Gomez / IG / When she is down, Selena focuses on the facts around her, the things she can see and feel. That shift pulls her out of fear and back into the moment.
It is a reminder that even when emotions feel loud, she is safe, present, and okay. This method sets the tone for the rest of her self-care habits.
Tools for Self-Care and Healing
The Rare Beauty founder does not rely on just one approach. She uses a collection of tools that support her on different kinds of days. The Hollywood icon has learned that healing is not a single trick. It is an ongoing practice. She builds her strategy step by step, using whatever best fits the moment.
Professional support is at the core of her routine. Selena works with a therapist and leans on friends who ground her, not drain her. She uses Dialectical Behavior Therapy, known as DBT, which helps her reshape thought patterns and handle big emotions with more clarity.
She says it has changed the way she responds to stress. It gives her structure and skills she can return to whenever needed.
Temperature therapy is another method she loves. On some days, she finds relief in cold showers or cold water dips that wake her body up and clear her head. On other days, she needs warmth. So, she grabs a space heater and lets the heat relax her muscles. These physical changes help regulate her mood, acting like a reset button that her body can feel instantly.
Gomez / IG / Selena gives herself permission to feel whatever shows up. The "Love You Like a Love Song" hitmaker says that sometimes a rough day needs to run its course. She lets the tears fall.
After that release, she usually finds a laugh waiting somewhere on the other side. That honesty keeps her grounded because she never forces herself to jump to joy before she is ready.
At the event, Gomez spoke with pride about the work the fund is doing. She hopes it will change the way communities talk about mental health and give people real support, not just encouraging words. Her own experiences make her mission feel personal. She is not speaking as a distant celebrity. She is speaking as someone who has been through it and wants to make the path easier for others.